In coming up with the title for today’s post, I pondered how to immediately get across the fact that you and I are taught lies that often hold millions of us back from reaching for more in life (in every area, like happiness, wealth, spirituality, romance and any other area, frankly).
In other words, I wanted to bring people of all ages value and support in knowing you aren’t alone in this journey! Here are some key points to remember that have changed my life in a big way, and I hope they change yours as well:
Lie #1: Scarcity, Fear and Negativity (By Default)
This is a big one in society – the lie that is constantly broadcast in the media that the world is a scary place of anger, scarce resources and the perception of global negativity shown every day on television (depending on the programming you choose for yourself and your family).
Yes – bad things happen in the world on a daily basis, but amazingly good things do as well, and way more of them than bad things, actually! Once I stopped watching the news (other than a brief update daily) and chose different, empowering and educational programming for myself, my outlook, my sense of hope and my happiness level changed pretty much immediately.
One example is The Good News Network as far as websites are concerned. The key to this: Daily habit! You’ve got to start your day with good content that empowers you to set the mood for the day. It takes zero courage to be a pessimist or cynic, after all. That does none of us any good in life. Demand better programming for your mind – content less based on hate, scarcity and anger with more based on hope, solutions and what’s going right with the world.
As I said in this recent post, be very careful what you choose to focus on in your day to day life. Your focus determines how you feel, which in turn impacts your day to day life and your destiny (it’s true – I’m proof of it).
Lie #2: Your Past Determines Your Future
Back when I got into trouble with the law in my early twenties and found a mission of proving myself, clearing my name and achieving a dream I’d had of working in the armored car industry (explained in my up-coming book Beyond ADHD, due out in June 2017), I first heard the term “past behavior determines future behavior.” Immediately, I felt my inner freight-train of determination to prove myself disagree with this statement with every ounce of my soul, and I have worked very hard to change my life, to “re-write my destiny” to use a fancy explanation.
Your past only determines your future if you stay stuck there, in the patterns of thought and behavior that caused issues for you in the past. I promise you that. The thing is that it takes effort to dig deep and be honest about ourselves, and some folks don’t like to do the work, so they only end up sabotaging themselves again and again. No wonder they’re miserable and usually complaining – they haven’t yet made the decision to change what they focus on and look for solutions. Once that decision is made, and you make it a MUST, not a “should,” you’re a force for good in life. You can literally change the movie script of your life, so to speak. I absolutely promise you this.
Lie #3: You Have to Be “Perfect” To Be Happy & Successful
No, no, NO! Yet another lie that’s been spread by well-meaning parents, educators and others around us (often reinforced by the no-so well-meaning media) as we’ve grown up, delivered in many lessons and subtle teachings from our earliest years. Whether it’s comparing our grades to others, the amount of body fat each of us have to our peers, the size of house we live in, the type of car we drive, or anything else, we should be taught that there is no such thing as perfect when it comes to human beings!
Sure – there’s a subjective idea of what “perfect” is to someone like an author, a professional athlete, an accountant or a parent, but the fundamental flaw is in how we make this objective in society across all cultures, types of bodies, personalities, professions and creative abilities. I realize we have certain standards set in place in things like sports, writing, fitness and other areas, but for God’s sake – please don’t measure how “good you are” by them. Please remember that we aren’t meant to all be the same, and that’s beautiful!
Wait – that’s thinking outside the box, right? You’re darn right it is. Time to wake up, world…and we are, I’m happy to say! It’s happening, and I’m far from alone in these thoughts and learned truths.
Enough from me – have any thoughts you want to share on this? Leave a comment below.