I Learned The Hard Way
No matter how you cut it, trying to please everybody is a sure-fire way to failure. People try to re-frame it sometimes to make excuses, but the sooner you recognize that, the better. True leadership means taking a stand and being self-aware when you come across things that go against your internal “compass,” your intuition.
This obviously needs to be done tactfully, so as to not burn a ton of bridges, but it must be done, nonetheless.
A panic attack resulting in a nervous breakdown of sorts made this incredibly clear to me in early 2014.
How do you know when it’s time to go with the flow and when it’s time to be brave and speak your truth? Well, that comes with age, experience and self-awareness, so it isn’t a one-size-fits-all formula by any means. Getting to know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses, values and inner motivators is crucial for deeper levels of success and meaning in your life – that’s where it becomes a lot easier. Self-awareness leads to self-confidence, humility, courage and principle that go a long way toward making you who you are.
One final note: a lack of self-awareness, confidence and inner purpose often equal folks who try to please everyone (to a good degree), but that does NOT mean that those very people aren’t amazing human beings! We all need support and self-growth to blossom into the best adults we can be – myself included. I’m still learning!
A little bit of courage and the audacity to speak your truth strongly (in whichever form that takes – positive, constructive ones, of course) goes one heck of a long way.
Onward! Keep on going in your journey of self-awareness, compassion and purpose! Life is teaching you day by day, month by month and year by year. There’s no way around that fact. Embrace the tapestry of lessons, good and challenging! They ALL have massive value, as I now realize.